Lusty Ladies at Play - What Can
May 15, 2007-- For Immediate Release
Synopsis: Guidelines to make girls night out
and a bride-to-be fling a safe and fun experience.
Burlington, ON, Canada (Sources) May 16, 1997 - Sexual fantasies
are a part of a normal active adult imagination. Playing with these
fantasies can be fun. How this is done is vital to maintaining self
esteem, self respect and real life relationships, says Marilyn Barnicke
Belleghem M.Ed., author of Questing France a book about coping with
Men and women often have problems accepting that women have sexual
expectations, desires and fantasies. Many men fear their own performance
will not live up to the woman's fantasies. They feel threatened.
They do not want their partner to engage in girls' nights out. Understanding
women share these concerns when their partner goes to stags and
strip clubs can open communication for the couple and help them
set realistic expectations for themselves and their partner.
There is also a double standard with some men that it is alright
for them to look at women lustfully but it is not normal for women
to look at men with sexual thoughts. Lack of clear understanding
and open communication can needlessly cause serious problems in
committed monogamous relationships. It can also hamper the development
of new intimate dating relationship.
If you want to have a fun on a girls' night out:
- Let your man know that it is about fun and fantasy.
- Agree on limits to behaviour such as no physical contact.
- Share your personal expectations that you have for yourself.
Know your limits with money, alcohol and or drugs.
- Don't let peer pressure get you into doing something you don't
want to do.
- Be open with your partner after the event so no one can tell
stories about your behaviour that could cause you problems.
Fantasy is something that is not real and is based on a made up
version or story. When women see the near naked body of an attractive
male entertainer, they may project their desires onto that male.
When they lose sight of the fact that what they create is in fact
not real, they can behave in ways that break their own moral code.
Strippers are experienced at enticing money and physical and emotional
responses from viewers.
Feeling sexually aroused or hot can take blood away from the brain
into the genital area. The excitement, especially if it is accompanied
by alcohol or drug use, can result in poor choices. A lonely wife
or sexually frustrated woman can imagine she is the one desired
by the provocatively behaving male. This is a great escape from
the stresses and strains of real life. It is not reality. It can
lead to dangerous situations.
- Truth builds trust, so tell your partner the truth.
- Sharing fantasies evoked by the girls' night can lead to a more
adventurous sexual relationship with your partner.
- Creating a new deal about what behaviour is alright for each
partner from areas of conflict can strengthen the relationship.
Different couples have different tolerance levels.
- If you feel your behaviour needs to be hidden from your partner
you are probably out of line.
- If you are fantasizing about the entertainer after the event
you need to talk to someone about your ideas. It is the entertainer's
job to get your fantasies churning not to fulfill them.
Using fantasy to compensate for a bad relationship will not help
create the quality of life you desire. Using fantasy for fun and
safe enjoyment is a great stress reliever. So fuel your fantasies
and enjoy! At the end of the party go back to reality refreshed
by laughter, fun and friendship!
Discover more about ways to cope with jealousy, infidelity, couple
conflict, helping children deal with marital strife and building
a strong relationship in Questing France: Deepening the Search for
My Holy Grail, Personal Growth Through Travel. ISBN-10: 0973412925
Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem M.Ed., is a Registered Marriage and
Family Therapist, and clinical member of the American Association
for Marriage and Family Therapy. With 30 years experience working
with clients on relationship issues she has used her expertise to
author books on personal growth through travel. She also carries
her message to audiences internationally as a speaker on relationship
Contact Quest Publishing Canada www.questpublishing.ca 905 639
0050 1 877 734 1517
Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem M.Ed.
Registered Marriage and Family Therapist
Burlington, ON, Canada
905 639 0050
1 877 734 1517
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