5 Ways To Cut The High Cost Of Divorce
May 5, 2009
Ending a marriage is financially devastating. Often costs are purposefully accelerated. Understand the ways legal fees increase rapidly. Learn how to lower the impact.
Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem M.Ed., a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist has worked with individuals, couples and families for over 30 years and has survived her own challenging divorce as recounted in her third book Questing Home: A Safe Place For My Holy Grail.
To keep costs in check;
1. Know your financial position and have it documented before seeing a lawyer. This includes all assets, (including tax implications) debts and who brought what into the marriage and what it was worth at the time.
2. Understand that a divorce is about being unmarried. Unless you want to remarry immediately it can be left until the separation agreement is done.
3. Accept that the separation agreement is the vital part of uncoupling and it is mostly about custody and money.
4. Appearing before a judge is not your best solution so start negotiating about who gets what in assets and responsibilities before seeing a lawyer. The more you agree on the cheaper it will be.
5. Understand that having a polite relationship after the legalities will make the quality of your life better and will impact all of your family for generations to come.
Questions audiences, readers and listeners want answered;
1. Why some people want a quick divorce?
2. Will a judge be fair?
3. Does it matter who wants to end the marriage and why?
4. Why should marriage counselling be considered before seeing a lawyer?
5. Why does it take so long to get unmarried?
Bullying In The Divorce Process Include;
1. Hiding and withholding financial information.
2. Wasting legal correspondence with trivial matters.
3. Fighting over items that can be replaced.
4. Staling to increase frustration and costs.
5. Undermining the credibility of the spouse and creating conflict to frighten them from continuing their fight for support.
There are signs that a particular divorce will turn into a legal nightmare with demoralizing consequences for those involved. The more aware you are of what you are facing the better prepared you can be.
Ask an expert who is well experienced in front of audiences, on television, the radio and frequently quoted in print and online media;
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Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem M.Ed.
Registered Marriage and Family Therapist
Marilyn Belleghem Consulting Inc.